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hater's gon' hate.


Okay, this is a post that I am making purely out of love for my followers and fellow bloggers. If you are a blogger like myself and you are aspiring to be successful like "Sophia's Journal" or "Colormenana" or "Little Chief Honey Bee" well. You are going to run into haters. There have been a few hateful comments towards my blog (The reason now why I approve every comment that comes in). While 97% of the comments are positive and loving and make me smile the other 3% are just mean, hateful comments. But never have I before had a blog written about me. Which has happened. Though I do see where the girl is coming from and why she is not happy with me, but the fact that someone writes a blog about you just to make you feel bad about yourself is NOT the right way approach it. 

Maybe the girl is just insecure? She needs to make fun of other people? 

Oh well, I am not a licensed therapist. And no I will not tell you her name or her blog, because, well I am not going to stoop to the level of making other people feel bad. I will not leave a comment on her site saying to "Check it out". I hope she learns to be a better person though. I guess we'll see, right?



But anyway, onto what the post is about. 


How to deal with hater's. 
(Not only in the blogging community, but life as well.)
Whether it is about how "annoying" you are, or how you don't capitalize your letters, or the way you look. 
There are going to be haters. That's life. I am going to show you guys my approach to dealing with them. 

1.) Let them hate, don't fire back.
2.) Ignore them. They thrive off of your anger.
3.) Don't let it get to you. 
4.) Remember the people that love you are all that matter.
and 
5.) Remember, if you maintain a positive attitude towards life and you are not a hater you will succeed more in life. It's guaranteed. 

So - I know that those are short and sweet. But I think they get my point across. Blogging and life is not meant to make fun of other people and to make them feel bad about themselves. It's about making YOURSELF feel better. Doing something you enjoy should not have consequences of making you not enjoy it. So, friends, followers, just people that are reading this post. Do me a favor, and stand up for "Nice Bloggers". 

In doing that, you guys can take part in the "Kind Hearted Blogger Pledge". I already have, and so should you (well, if you want. lol.)

 

(for the HTML code just click on the "Kind Hearted Blogger Pledge" link up a little ways.)


Just post this button somewhere on your blog - Or you can just read this and mentally take part. Whatever. :)



 AS A KIND-HEARTED BLOGGER YOU PLEDGE TO:

  • create, inspire, and admire rather than compete with fellow bloggers.
  • be understanding of each other-- in the blogging community, as well as in the world.
  • stay away from internet/blogging bullying.
  • speak my opinion freely, while still being mindful of other's feelings-- be tactful.
  • make an effort--no matter how big or small the gesture, to spread kindness or joy to others.
  • acknowledge that I will make mistakes, (I am only human) but remember to learn from them.
  • know that at times I will post about the negative stuff in life, and maybe even some complaining (I am only human) but I will always follow up with something happy/positive too.
  • believe that this world is a good place, filled with good people.


If you do take part, I will make sure to link you in either this post or another "Kind Heart" page. So let me know if you do so. 

Have a wonderful day, and I hope to see you guys taking part! :)


PS: Photos from weheartit.com





42 comments:

  1. great post!!

    i join and use the kind hearted blogger pledge :)

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  2. Hey I am in! This is AMAZING and you are amazing for setting the example. much love!-Ana

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  3. I totally know what you mean! I had a girl comment me and say that I am so generic, unoriginal and don't post photos of myself because I'm ugly!! So mean but hey, as you say "haters gon' hate!" I'm definately going to join this pledge :)
    Keep up the good blog!!
    nadiine-x

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  4. P.S; love the tips you listed :) Its better just rise above these people than succumb* to it!

    *not sure if thats the right word to use but oh well you know what I mean :)

    nadiine-x

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  5. You are abosolutely right, blogging is about making yourself feel better, not putting people down or constantly competing. P.s. I just joined kind hearted bloggers ;) Keep on keepin on blog sista, haters aint got nuthin on u!

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  6. thank you dani! and your right, ain't got nothin' on me. ;) lol.

    thanks girls!

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  7. Keep being true to you and don't worry what people say!!! YOu're creative and keep the spark!


    www.MrsCapretta.com
    Recipes Fashion Marriage

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  8. I'm inspired by your optimism :)

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  9. I'm inspired by your acceptance! And your kind heart. It's not easy to keep silent. Most people don't, it's human nature to fire back. I love that you won't stoop to that level. Bravo to you!

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  10. Cant believe you get haters, they are so pathetic.. who could hate you! your looovely! :) rachinald.blogspot.com :)

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  11. lovely post, more people need to think like this. life's too short to hate! x

    http://wewereraisedbywolves.blogspot.com/

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  12. great post! <3

    www.loretta-blog.blogspot.com

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  13. What a great idea, I'm going to join :)

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  14. way to keep your head up!! :)

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  15. Oh no. I can't believe someone left nasty comments on your blog. /hugs.

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  16. i don't understand why people want to be mean just for the sake of being mean to someone, and i hope you're not too hurt by comments you got. i've taken the pledge :)
    xxx
    Catflicks

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  17. I hate it when people try to dig at other people. It completely saddens me. I am so sorry that some people were being mean to you but just remember that means they are jealous of you :) Stay true to gorgeous self chica! <3

    http://jesuschick13.blogspot.com/

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  18. I've only ever gotten one seriously mean comment and I was like, um...delete.
    People are weird. It's like, they don't even know you. Fuck 'em.

    You're sparkly and you should know it, too. :)

    http://roxxybelle.blogspot.com

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  19. what a interesting wake up call for me. im glad i randomly came across your blog and im glad you posted this. im going to take this pledge! youre awesome! xoxo

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  20. I can't believe someone wrote a blog about you :( How horrible. I love this idea so much!! I joined the pledge and have the stamp proudly displayed at http://aussiebeautyreviews.blogspot.com/

    Hannah xoxo

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  21. Very cute blog. Love the variety of subjects:)

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  22. You must be way nicer than I am! I don't know if I could do all of this, but I respect you for it! Kudos and good luck!

    Have an awesome week x

    The Internet Garbage

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  23. I'm sorry that you have to experience that. If anything, the bloggers that I've met are just all too nice.

    I'm glad you're handling the problem in a mature way! If only there was more people like you on the internet... the bigger person.

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  24. I loved this post! I thought you handled that whole "other blogger" situation well. I love your opinions, and how you express them on your blog. Thanks so much for commenting on my post, I really apreciate it! :) If I can figure out how I will definatly put that link/pic on my blog! Thanks a bunch! xxx

    http://fashionwalnut.blogspot.com

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  25. thanks for your comment, your blog is awesome! Reaaaly good article (: I'm following you now!
    xoxo

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  26. 1 100% will always be kind hearted too, that's just my nature. Sorry you went through that babe <3 stay strong xoxo.

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  27. Great Post Rach !!!
    I Follow you too !!


    Thanks alot for your sweet comment !

    Lots of Love !♥ A.

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  28. Hey love,
    I saw you checked out my blog <3 thanks. I am now following hope you can do the same :) I love this post. Let them hate and you continue to do what you do and thats BE GREAT :)

    WWW.LADYJJS.BLOGSPOT.COM

    CHECK ME OUT :) PROMISE YOU WILL LOVE IT!

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  29. Thanks for your comment, cute cat picture :)

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    Please take a minute to look at my trunkshow;

    http://iouproject.com/tsh/jessica-karen/

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  30. Omg! No way? Wow, people these days are just so low. We definitely do not need their negativity, at the end of the day what they think doesn't really matter, what matters is that somehow your blog has made other people smile. Don't worry much about that jealous hater, just think of all your loyal bloggers who love ya. =)

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  31. My goodness - I can't believe there are hateful bloggers out there! Blogging is all about positive reinforcement, I do believe!

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  32. Awesome post! I took the pledge. :)

    I love love reading your blog. Keep up the fantastic work!

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  33. Good attitude, Kiddo! Don't let anyone bring you down besides, your blog is awesome! On the positive, you must have left one heck of an impact if someone took that much time to slam you. Like you said, haters gonna hate.

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  34. I am a strong believer in "if you haven't got anything nice to say, dont say it all". it's just kind to be kind, isnt it! I can't believe that some people write such hateful things. This is a great post - keep up the amazing blog! x

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  35. eeek! love your blog back ;) thanks for stopping by!

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  36. The reason it has taken me so long to begin blogging is for this exact reason. I don't need to come on here to lose my confidence (the little that I have) Then I realised that even the most beautiful girls on here with the most amazing sense of style get hate comments and it shouldn't stop you doing what you enjoy. So here I am starting out and I shall take it as it comes. :)

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  37. wow, I admire you so much right now! this really shows the strength of your character, and what a beautiful person you are inside. what a beautiful post. Honestly is the only right way to deal with meanies!

    -Heather from lifeofapasseri.blogspot.com

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